Stopping Divorce To Save Your Marriage

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How Can I Stop My Divorce?


You’ve invested so much in this relationship and have taken those vows seriously doing all you possibly can to avoid a divorce and save your marriage,but when difficult times arise and you are headed into split-ville, you ask the question how can I prevent this divorce and save my marriage? There is no simple solution here as there are two people involved and no two people are the same and every marriage is different; however, examining faux pas made and learning from them will better equip one to figure out what needs to be done to stop divorce, win back a lost love and mistake avoidance.

How many times have you heard talk is cheap? people have a tendency of saying things to reassure themselves and others which most of the times prove to be lies. A very common mistake that many people make is saying they will be better or things have changed. Sounding desperate saying things to get back into one’s good graces makes one seem weak. Regardless of how true your excuses may appear to be I have changed is no way to prevent a marriage breakup"

Actions speak louder than words so it would be best to keep silent without uttering any words and that works just as well. Nothing you say will convince or lay their fears to rest that you have changed. Play it cool and say nothing. Instead of saying that you have changed, let your actions do the talking and change your life change your ways. You need to be strong and be totally committed to mending your relationship by doing what is needed to avoid a divorce.

Using the tactic of emotional blackmail is another bad mistake that many people make. Its easy to say I love you but saying it and meaning it a two different things. These are such strong words that when said during a time like this comes across as an attack on a persons weak point. These are serious words that should not be toyed with and should never be used to repair a marriage on the rocks.

Don’t say I love you? How do I let it be known that I love my partner if saying I love you is out of the question. How do I stop my relationship from the brink of divorce if I can’t say I love you ? It may sound ridiculous but I love you should not be said when your partner is a weak emotional state. These words should be reserved for when the relationship is out of the woods

Arguing rarely solves anything and it does not help but makes any situation worse. Some people tend believe that arguing will help the other person to see their hypocrisy and that will stop their divorce but they could not be more wrong. Such tactics like playing the guilt strip to win them over and use of reasoning to achieve a change of mind never works because you are trying to prove and convince your partner that you are right while conveying to your partner that they are the one at fault and you are right. But, you are destined for failure as you will only succeed in pushing them farther and farther away and your goal of stopping your divorce will never be accomplished.

You sincerely want to stop your divorce? Then its simple. Don’t argue! Don’t start an argument neither join one. Only idiots argue and nothing gets resolved. Arguing just adds to the  situation. Some people  think that arguing can repair the situation and stop the divorce. Once you acknowledge that there’s no need to compete and dismiss the need to win, the cause of your problems will surface and you will be able to deal with it successfully.

The key to keeping love alive and your marriage intact is to quit being your own wost enemy. You can achieve this by not being an attacker, by showing love through actions, and by implementing change. Positive change will only come when steps are taken to bring about change and when you remain strong. You must act and solve your problem with actions because words alone will not heal nor prevent marriage breakup . You need to take action and save your marriage


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9 Responses to Stopping Divorce To Save Your Marriage

  1. Aubrey says:

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  2. Devon Limbo says:

    I think today too many couple get divorced. i wish everyone would try to stay together and not break up so fast, because they sweared in front of god that they will be together forever…

  3. William from filing for divorce says:

    It is real easy to end the marriage. A marriage takes work. One does not think enough of the other person to put forth the effort, there is a problem. This can be resolved. You have spent how many years with your spouse? Who knows this person better than you.
    An argument will lead to pushing each others buttons. You have to be both willing to work at it to keep it.

  4. Mary says:

    I do think this article can help a lot of people who are in search of methods to save their marriage and to stop divorce. Just have been mentioned in the article, I agree that the first thing is to avoid argument since this will do nothing but harm your relationship. And quit being your own worst enemy is also very important. What you should do is to devote your true love and real action to your marriage and your spouse would realize this sooner or later.

  5. Webspace says:

    I think today too many couple get divorced.

  6. There are steps you can take to stop your divorce and possibly save your marriage. Your marriage doesn’t have to fail – you can do something, but you do have to have a plan. Broken down to it’s simplest form, your plan should be:

    * Find the problem;
    * Fix the problem;
    * Remember the good times;
    * Start Over.

    As the article says, you need to take action. Start talking – really talking with, not over or at, your partner. There are systems and processes that can help you fix what is broken in your relationship, but you need to be willing to use them.

    • admin says:

      Great insight Chris. People who are truly serious about salvaging their marriage can’t afford to be passive and your plan of action is a great one .

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